7 thoughts on “Lucine and Enzo

  1. I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult but clearly had it all my life. I also am a mother of two children, one of whom has ADHD and a slew of other challenges that I think are related to it and stem from it (including anxiety and depression). This week has been especially challenging with symptomatic behavior and interacting with the “normal” world in that context. I read this and nearly started crying. A lot of the agencies and services are different in my country but the rest of it rings so many bells it’s deafening. Thank you for posting.


    1. Sympathy, Iris. I was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder as a young adult but through my working life, it’s become gradually clear to me that I have distracted-variant ADHD, possibly as well. (The two can interact and make the picture more confusing). I struggle with concentration and executive function and it’s taken years to work out why. I’ve been on a waiting list for assessment for all of 2021.

      I’m pretty sure my son is also autistic, and my daughter… well, I think she has ADHD traits, but it’s hard to get anyone else to see it. I’m hoping that if I can get a diagnosis it’ll act as a lever to get my ideas about her taken more seriously.

      As a parent I use my children as external accountability to get things done, but it is very hard and I often end up exhausted just from trying to railroad myself into doing tasks that would be ridiculously simple if I could just focus (without falling into hyperfocus and spending hours on them…) I can’t see a way onward without medical help.


  2. I am about 99% sure that my father, uncle, me and some of my brothers all have ADHD

    And we’re not diagnosed because father thinks it’s normal. Even when he is judged by other adults for fidgeting etc.

    Even when I’m absolutely unable to finish basic tasks or take on the mental load, because I’ll just forget it. I’ve always been described as “too much”.

    Even when my brother obviously can’t focus, needs special accommodations, is considered annoying by his peers and is very impulsive and emotional.

    My stepmother is of no help in that regard, saying that he’s a “normal” (her) child. And I’m just weird.

    My father said “ADHD doesn’t exist”.

    The funniest thing is, I’m an adult by law and I could get a diagnosis. I will probably get a diagnosis one day.

    But first I have to get my finances in order and stop to impulse buy things. But first I have to remember to make an appointment after I got the money for it.
    But first I have to convince a doctor to test me.
    But first I have to do a lot of things

    …which would be much easier and maybe we’re done if I was medicated or coped better.

    …which reminds me I was supposed to find tips on how to manage ADHD


    1. I’ve found the YouTube channel ‘How to ADHD’ very helpful.

      I was diagnosed last year as a new mom who couldn’t get a feeding schedule right for my newborn. They considered taking my daughter away but I’m happy they decided to see why my executive functioning wasn’t that good instead.

      All the best, you’ve got this.


  3. Thank you so much for this comment – as someone with ADHD who didn’t get diagnosed until 14, it’s spot on. When you’re told your whole life that you’re lazy, stupid, annoying, etc for things you can’t control, you really do start to believe it. It’s been a little over two years since I was diagnosed and I still have to remind myself that I’m not just being “lazy”, I have an actual disability. It’s really interesting and helpful to see the parent’s perspective on it.


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